Toheeb is one of the smartest guys in the class back then in school. Since we graduated 2 years ago, he has been doing quite well in his career, but when he checks Instagram, he sees guys he outperformed in school who are making more money and achieving greater things than him.
Likewise, there some of his colleagues at his work place who are doing better than him. All these makes him wonder with no choice than to ask himself, “What Am I Doing Wrong”?
You can relate right? You might relate to Toheeb yourself, or have a colleague or friend who struggles with the same feelings.
The truth is, raw intelligence is undoubtedly a huge asset, but it is not everything. And sometimes, when intellectually gifted people don’t achieve as much as they would like to, it’s because they are indirectly under-rating themselves.
If you’re in this situation, the good news is that when you understand these things that are hindering your success as an intelligent person, you can turn them around.
Below Are five Things Smart People Particularly Struggle With That Is Preventing Them From Making It In Life:-
1. Smart People Don’t Value Other Skills, Like Relationship Building, And Over-concentrate On Intellect
Very smart people sometimes are always over confident of their success in life because of their intellect, so they don’t see other soft skills as important.
For instance, some smart people don’t always feel the need to go out clubbing or chill out, they prefer to stay indoor working or watching educative programmes forgetting that going out chilling relaxes the brain and also increases your chances of meeting people who will offer you bigger contracts.
They grow up being told they’re smart, and during their schooling, academic success comes more easily to them than to others. It’s easy to understand why, as a result, they would continue to focus on their intellect as adults and other things like building strong relationships with people becomes meaningless to them.
In life, you need more than raw intelligence to get ahead. And only focusing on your greatest strength, rather than also addressing your weaknesses, tends to be self-destructive.
The Solution: Use your strengths to overcome your weaknesses. If you’re good at learning you can simply learn the skills that don’t come as naturally to you.
Learn how to talk to people, relate with others and developing positive attitude. For instance, identify three specific workplace diplomacy behaviours that would improve your success in that area. You can be smart buy your attitude makes you smarter!
2. Teamwork Can Be Frustrating For Very Smart People
Smart people grasps idea quickly and has high standards for their own performances. This makes it difficult for them when working with others who process information and grab ideas slowly.
This frustration develop early in smart kids they feel other slow learners are holding them back and as a result, they have problem with team work.
Some students will put it upon themselves to handle group assignments involving 10 people by themselves all because they feel they can do it all better.
Smart people also sometimes find it difficult to delegate because of a sense they can do a task better (regardless of whether this is actually true.) This is especially likely for those who have a perfectionist streak.
If you understand the concept of associative thinking you will know that no idea is entirely bad no matter how useless they appear. You can’t be smart in everything, some people know more than you in some situations.
The Solution: Be self-compassionate about your internal reactions and understand where they come from, but also learn to genuinely appreciate what people of different minds bring to a team.
3. Smart People Often Attach A Lot Of Their Self-esteem To Being Smart, Which Can Decrease Their Hustling Spirit
If a lot of your self-esteem rests on your intelligence, it can be very difficult to be in situations that threatens your smartness.
Smart people always avoid taking risk that will put them situation of getting criticized and as such they are always contented the little success they are getting.
Any situation that triggers feeling not- smart is experienced as highly threatening. The smart person may even seek to avoid those situations, which ultimately holds the person back.
For instance, I have a secondary school mate who is a naturally gifted singer but won’t go into music because he feels the chance of making it in music in Nigeria is a low. That’s fear of failure.
The Solution: Take an objective view of the benefits of working with people who are, in some respects, smarter than you.
If you’re surrounding yourself with smart people, you’re doing something right. Remember, iron sharpens iron.
Develop relationships with people who you trust to give you helpful constructive feedback. The more you become accustomed to receiving criticisms as feedbacks from people who believe in your overall talents and capacities, the easier it will become.
4. Smart People Get Bored Easily
If you’re smart, curious, and have a love of learning, you might find yourself loosing interest quickly in anything once you’ve learnt it.
This is why some people, after learning graphics design instead of focusing on it so that can be cashing out steady, they move to learning web-designs and after some months of getting bored with codes, they want to start learning video editing again.
The everyday execution side of one thing might bore you, and you’d rather constantly be learning new different things.
As a result, finding a niche and repeating the same formula might seem too boring or unchallenging to you as a smart person.
The Solution: Instead of attempting dramatic change, decide on something related to what you’re currently into, learn it and be using it to break the boredom.
For instance, if you’re a graphics designer, you can learn photography so that when you get bored designing, you can go out to take some beautiful photos, then come back to design.
Additionally, make sure you’re learning across the various domains of your life, including your work, hobbies, physical fitness, understanding yourself and so on.
5. Smart People Sometimes See In-depth Thinking As The Solution To Every Problem
Intelligent people are used to succeeding through their thinking skills, but in most cases overlook when a different approach would be more beneficial.
For example, the smart person might attack every situation by trying to think it to death, over-researching every decision and ruminating over every mistake when other approaches geared towards coming up with solutions would be more fruitful.
The Solution: Notice when you’re thinking too much. Consider when strategies other than thinking are more likely to result in success.
Experiment with taking breaks to get unstuck, and allow yourself to learn by doing something instead of exhaustive advance research.
Expand your range of skills for getting solutions so that you’re not the person who sees every problem as a nail because their only tool is a hammer.
If you can relate to any of the points above, do not judge yourself or feel shameful about it, know that you can turn them around by the tactical and practical solutions we have highlighted.
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